Because of Love, do not Give Up

Earlier this year I noticed something interesting on the social network site of one of my friends who works in the W orphanage. She had posted the link to a news article, and the thumbnail was a picture of me and vice director X. I clicked the link and it took me to a long article. I plugged the article into Google-translate and muddled through it enough to understand the gist. For a few months it’s been on my list of things “to-do” to translate this article and edit it. It deals with a deep and painful and confusing issue: baby safe houses in China. These are little rooms set up outside of the orphanage where parents can abandon their babies. Of course, this is a very controversial issue no matter who you talk to. I’ve read many articles in US and UK papers and sites, but this was the first time I had read a long Chinese opinion, written by Chinese reporters, with interviews from people I know and respect.

I have not added anything, these are their words.

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Upon the establishment of a “baby safe house,” there was a lot of controversy in the community. Some people worry that the establishment of an “Abandoned Baby Safe Island,” will condone this behavior. However, as a supplement to the act of rescuing, we cannot ignore the positive significance that these baby safe islands have had. Currently this province has baby safe houses set up in two cities. So, how does this work and how do we manage a baby safe island? What are the difficulties? We will address the two major concerns in this article.

We do not support the abandonment of babies.

But we must protect abandoned babies

December 3, 2013.
It was in Beijing’s Tongzhou District, Ge Village. In a dumpster an abandoned baby boy was found. He was naked. Emergency personnel arrived but it was too late, the baby had died. On that very same day, in the W city orphanage baby safe island a little baby was abandoned. He was suffering from spina bifida and the orphanage staff sent him to Beijing right away for surgery. He is currently recovering and is doing well. He should grow up without any further complications and be a normal child.

The same day. The same situation. But because of the baby safe house the result is completely different.
Before the baby safe island was established in W, the orphanage would often receive children who had been abandoned in crowds at the train station, at the entrance of the supermarket, picked up at garbage stations or other places. The police would bring the children in and there would often be secondary injuries, sometimes the babies died.

“When parents abandon babies they do them the greatest harm. What we can do is try to improve the ability to find these babies and protect their legitimate rights and interests. We can protect them from secondary damage.” W Children’s Welfare Dean ZZY said.

W Child Welfare built their baby safe house in April 2013 and it was put into use as the first baby safe house in the area. Billboards were set up in the more populated areas of the small town.

“Before the Baby Safe House, there have been instances of abandoned children, but we have no way to prevent the occurrence. There is nothing we can do about it. But, through the establishment of a baby safe house, we can greatly improve the survival rate of abandoned children, reflecting that life comes first. The priority is the interests of the child. ” ZZY said.

Although the Baby Safe House in Guangzhou shut down because it was too full, the public safety of abandoned babies is still an issue. An anonymous official said, “We do not support the behavior of abandoning babies, but we must protect the abandoned babies.”
Abandoned children need a warm safe “home”

The W orphanage baby room has 13 cots, clean and neat. There are colorful cartoon stickers on the wall, making the room warm and pleasant. The sun shines warmly into the room onto the children’s playing or sleeping faces.

This is the final home of the abandoned baby.

“Yangyang, don’t be naughty to your friend. Be nice!” “Guoguo, don’t cry, your mama will come and hold you.” The caregivers are busy feeding, caring, and trying to be the children’s mother.
Up to now, the Baby Safe House has received a total of nine children refugees, the oldest is a three-year-old, the youngest was newborn. When the children are brought into the orphanage they are given a new name. Each of the children have had special needs, some were suffering from cerebral palsy, hydrocephalus, Down Syndrome, limb deformities, spina bifida and other severe disabilities. Currently, the children with spina bifida have been sent to Beijing for surgery, but after recovery will return. The children will hydrocephalus will also be sent to Beijing for surgery.
“As the children grow, the pressure of the water on the brain grows, so the longer we wait for surgery the greater the damage. Surgery for hydrocephalus cannot be delayed, the sooner it is done the better.” orphanage director of therapy, LQ said.

A child suffering from hydrocephalus is named SQ. He was found April 6th in the baby safe house without a note. According to the medical staff, they estimated that he was eight or nine months old.

Many of the children in the orphanage have cerebral palsy, and do therapy every day. “Most of the abandoned children have cerebral palsy. Some can have surgery, some cannot. We do our best to give the children a chance to do therapy intervention to correct their abnormal posture and give them the best chance to care for themselves in the future.” LQ said.
The baby safe house is located at the gate of the orphanage, and there is someone keeping an eye on it 24 hours a day. The sliding door has a touch sensing device that has a delay. Once someone enters the island, within 3-5 minutes an alarm will sound and the duty officer will go and inspect.

Once found abandoned, the duty officer will report the child immediately to the hospital and the police department in accordance with the rules. After initial examination by the police officer the child will be admitted into the orphanage. If there is no major disease, the babies will remain in observation for a time until being added into the baby room. If the child is in critical condition they will be immediately sent to the hospital, and if the hospital cannot handle the case the orphanage will arrange to transfer them to Beijing for treatment.

“To protect and care for abandoned babies, the Ministry of Civil Affairs has set up a Tommorow Plan, and there are a number of charitable foundations and non-governmental organizations to help raise the kids. If there is hope, we will not give up.” ZZY said.

Because of love, do not give up

At 4:30 on April 11, the orphanage W baby safe house ushered in their ninth child. When the duty officer arrived, the child was sound asleep. In addition to the clothes the baby was wearing and the blanket wrapping him, the parents had left nothing. Little did the child know, but his parents had abandoned him. From now on, his life has changed completely.

When he wakes up he will not hear the familiar voices of loved ones. No longer will he feel the warm embrace of his mother. The child will keep crying, his frightened eyes will look at everything as strange. Although there is nothing to indicate an accurate diagnosis, when the nurse on duty picks him up his waist and back arch behind stiffly. “According to our preliminary judgment, the child is suffering from cerebral palsy. He is probably five and a half or so.” Orphanage shift leader, BXM said.

All of the children who have arrived at the baby safe house have some sickness. Parents seem to choose the hours between 10pm and 5am to leave their children. Some parents will leave a small piece of paper, stating the child’s date of birth, illness and treatment… sometime the note says that they are no longer able to bear the medical expenses, but must abandon their child.

“Maybe orphanages are able to operate on children, so parents get relief. But what sick children need most is a parent’s love and companionship. Care workers must take care of a dozen children, there is a lack of parental love, and we see the effect of this in the child’s growth. ” BXM said.

W has placed billboards on the downtown plaza, “Because of love, do not give up,” “Giving up does not mean abandoning. Abandoning is giving up” and other eye-catching slogans. “Because of love, the baby safe house will not give up on an abandoned baby’s life. Because of love, should not parents not give up their own flesh and blood?” BXM wants for parents to assume their due responsibility.
In fact, there are a lot of special national and regional aid programs aimed at children. If your child is suffering from a serious illness, parents can apply for assistance to the authorities. Guaranteeing civil affairs departments and other living assistance, after healthcare reimbursement, as well as serious illness living in poverty relief. Also, you can apply to other temporary relief projects.

According to the person in charge of the AR of the RC, they have a 14 year history of caring for children with leukemia and congenital heart disease. A case of leukemia can apply for up to xxx yuan in relief funds, congenital heart disease can apply up to xxx yuan.

According to the person in charge of autonomous federations, for children under 7 years of age, there are many rescue rehabilitation projects, such as giving hearing-impaired children cochlear implants, or hearing aids. Children with physical disabilities can freely do corrective surgery, wear orthotics and get therapy. Cerebral palsy, autism and mentally handicapped children can receive some free therapy. There are also projects for children with congenital heart defects. You can contact many foundations and charitable organizations to help.

What is the solution for abandoned babies?

Guangzhou City, Guangdong Province Social Welfare opened the first baby refuge, 48 days after the pilot test run it was suspended because the number of abandoned children received was far more than the orphanage could afford.

Just at the beginning of the baby safe house’s opening, the public opinion was still discussing the scope of social ethics, and if it would encourage abandoned baby behavior. However, seeing a child with disability, or suffering from severe illness, and observing that this is the case for all of the infants arriving at the island, people have begun to appreciate the value of the existence of the infant island.

Last July, under the MCA, CCWAC issued a plan to help care for abandoned children around China and to deal with the situation. The pilot of the baby safe homes was put into place, however with the suspension of the GZ home, we cannot help but feel confused. To improve the staff at the welfare institutions, facilities and recourses in the short term is difficult. But children are being abandoned all the time. What do we do?

A child with a congenital defect or suffering from severe illness is born. This is the start of a family tragedy. They spend huge amounts of money to raise and treat the child. Therefore, even if the individual infant’s parents risked breaking the law to reluctantly abandon their baby at the safe island, they are escaping and abandoning their obligations to care and support the child. Abandoning a child after he is born has a number of reasons: ethical, moral, legal, security. It is a very complex social problem.

 

***names and locations and institutions are not named to protect the privacy of people and places

Because, Obviously…

Because obviously I’m not keeping up with writing mini devotional -type posts this week (I had a big test last week, lots of homework, full weekends and other crazy stuff and I need to stop typing excuses) I’m just going write about other stuff for a bit and I’ll pick up where I left off later. Okay?

A few things I’ve been doing these days have included enjoying Autumn. There’s just something special about the changing of the seasons, no matter which country I’m in! I love the new colors, flavors, temperature and… just everything!

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I got myself onto a baby-hat knitting kick again. And now I can’t stop. I think that I’ve knitted 5-6 little hats while watching Statistic lectures and anatomy videos online… it’s really addicting.

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I’ve been really enjoying October in my NDFH calendar. I took this picture of the precious little girls and it’s amazing to look back and remember how sweet they all were and know that they all have families now!

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In other news it’s been really rainy and I love rain-drop coated daisies.

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Supermarkets still overwhelm me. I walked into a Kroger a few weeks ago and was in a culture-shocked daze. I tend to stick to the Asian markets for shopping… or Trader Joe’s or something like that. The big places with three zillion brands of everything make my head spin. The farmers market in town is delightful, really, and I just love going there. I even found the “right” kind of eggplant (long and skinny) and tried my hand at a Chinese dish for lunch yesterday. It was pretty close to being authentic… just not spicy enough.

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And now I’m busy coordinating Christmas sponsorship for the kids in China, applying to nursing schools, wrapping my mind around statistics concepts and thinking. Lots of thinking.

A Little Girl Waits

On a cold day in February, 2011, a little girl was born in China. She was born with a complex heart defect and, when her orphanage realized the severity of her case, was sent to a home in Beijing for care. Upon arrival in Beijing the little one was rushed to the hospital and applications for the government’s Tomorrow Plan were filled out. However, just two weeks later the child was discharged.

But she wasn’t discharged because she was better, the hospital sent her home because they said that there was no option, no hope. Her heart defect was much more complex than anyone had anticipated. Her foster home sought answers, and ended up at another hospital in the city. The cardiologists diagnosed her with a large VSD and severe pulmonary hypertension. They said that surgery would be high-risk, and because the little one had a bad case of pneumonia at the time, surgery would be out of the question until she was stabilized.

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November 30, 2011, little Lydia was hospitalized. At 8pm the hospital called. She was in critical condition, on the ventilator, and was going into heart failure. She wouldn’t make it, and they needed to transfer her. However all hospital beds were full and Lydia could not be transferred. Miraculously, she survived the night.

Lydia was nine months old and only weighed nine pounds. A tiny little thing, depending on the ventilator for every breath.

But she made it. Lydia was able to have her heart surgery and she survived, being released from ICU January 4, 2012. During the next few months Lydia continued to recover well, gaining weight and becoming happier and stronger. She learned how to hold her bottle by herself, started sitting, crawling, and walking with her hands held. Lydia’s development was below her peers, but she was also shy, with a quieter personality.

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In August, 2013, the doctors reported that her heart function was doing quite well. When Lydia was almost three years old she was put on medication for a genetic problem that was causing her to gain too much weight.

In March, her caregivers reported that she is cheerful, eats and sleeps well. She is chubby and cute. She loves to eat! She was able to walk independently, but her speech was still quite delayed because she still had a cleft palate. She can understand and express her needs, wave goodbye, kiss and clap her hands. She has feisty personality at times and likes to do things herself. She also loves music, and will smile quietly and clap her hands when she hears music.

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Lydia has a strong sense of self-protection. She doesn’t like being around people she doesn’t know, and if she’s in an unfamiliar situation she will stay close to her caregivers.

In October Lydia’s update was that she is still a bit behind developmentally, but making progress. She is able to feed herself and has started preschool. She brushes her teeth, washes her hands, and loves to clean up, put books away and take out the trash.

Her favorite thing is still food, but she loves her music as well and sings and dances whenever she can. Lydia loves life and has a positive attitude! Her progress over the last year has been significant and we believe that a family will make a huge difference in her life. She’s ready for them, she’s been waiting… it’s time for them to find her.

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Lydia’s file is currently with WACAP. Please email ckids@wacap.org for more information. There is a $4000 Promise Child grant available to qualified families.

 In case you aren’t won over by her preciousness yet.. check out the videos below! She’s adorable.

{31} A Realignment

sorry for taking a day or so off from this write31day challenge… life is full and busy, as is my poor brain…

The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me,
Because the Lord has anointed me
To bring good news to the afflicted;
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to captives
And freedom to prisoners;

ISAIAH 61:1

When you read that verse what do you think of first? What pops into your mind, what sticks with you? The “bind up the brokenhearted” part, right? Or maybe the word, “afflicted” or “freedom” or “liberty.” I have a pretty confident assumption that most of the people who read my blog are of the care-giving sort – you seek to minister and to love and to hold tightly. Am I right? Are these the words that stand out to you, because they sure were the ones that I keyed in on the first few times I read this powerful verse.

My dad is an excellent writer and he has taught me a few things… actually, he’s done more reminding and I’ve done more forgetting. It’s all about the verbs. Are you a writer? Isn’t he right?

So, what are the verbs here. Anointed. Bring. Sent. Bind. Proclaim. And what is our subject – what is the noun here? Good news.

Yeah? Do you see it? The Spirit of the Lord God does not come upon us for mere earthly tasks, but for heavenly things. He has anointed us to bring good news. To bring something you must have it in hand. To be anointed you must have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. And to do all of the binding of the brokenhearted and the freeing of the prisoners you must first have the perspective that this is good news work.

It’s not about holding orphaned babies. It’s about knowing and beginning to comprehend that we are no longer orphans.

It’s not about adoption. It’s about realizing and seeking to fathom the vertical adoption that has happened to us by God, proud and unfaithful as we are.

It’s not about advocacy. It’s about knowing with confidence the free gift that you have been chosen to receive. Salvation. A right relationship with God. Wow.

So what does this have to do with “living purposefully” as you aspire to “change the world”? It’s a realignment that I know I sure need. It’s the mind-shift from task-oriented faith – seeking to do do do do, to grace-rooted obedience. And it’s not easy. But He is enough.

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“But now that Timothy has come to us from you, and has brought us good news of your faith and love, and that you always think kindly of us, longing to see us just as we also long to see you, for this reason, brethren, in all our distress and affliction we were comforted about you through your faith; for now we really live, if you stand firm in the Lord.” 1 Thessalonians 3:6-8

No Way

No way.

I refuse to believe it. Do you hear me? REFUSE! My little baby sisters who are so sweet and adorable are not now ages 11 and 13. They’re not. I mean it. This is NOT okay.

*sigh*

Why do babies have to grow up?

I’m not okay with this at all.

Naomi turned 11 on October 6th. Eleven. That’s practically twenty-two… and she’s mature enough to make you believe it.

Elisabeth turned 13 on October 13th. Thirteen. Pardon me while I bury my head in a pillow. I will either be screaming or sobbing.

I’d like for you to meet my little sister, Elisabeth.

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This is Elisabeth on her 1st birthday, just a few weeks home… we shared a party.

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…and then the two of them, my baby sisters.
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See!? I told you that they couldn’t possibly be eleven and thirteen. Seriously. Who put that kind of idea into your head. Ridiculous.

Jeremy’s 21st Birthday

Jeremy’s birthday is on the 2nd, but as that was a Thursday and we’re busy students these days, my grandparents and I didn’t drive over to see him until the Saturday after… which was a week ago. I’m sorry, I’m so behind.

I was really looking forward to seeing his and Chris’ little apartment. It was quite cozy and clean. The official “bedroom” is the room below, with big windows and bright sunshine… so they switched bedroom and living room so that they can sleep in darkness and study in light. Their kitchen and front door and beds are all in the same location now, but it works!

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Jeremy keeps his bike in the apartment, and Chris keeps his bed underneath Jeremy’s. That little hallway you see in the back of the picture? That’s their kitchen.

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We came bearing gifts, of course. Too many yummies and new clothes and money.

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Then it was time for dinner! Nana told the staff that there was a birthday boy at the table, and they brought him some ice cream and pie with a candle. Yay!

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Happy birthday, Jeremy!

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You’re 21 now, which means that you are now allowed to do things in the US that you could have done for years before in China. No need to take advantage of these privileges.

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Before we left we got a picture of the three “medical” students. Two future doctors and a nurse. If you need us we’ll be studying…

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{31} Finding peace in the midst of it all

Do you ever get the feeling that you’re being prepared for something that is so far beyond you – so impossible, and so unexpected?

That all the dreams you’ve dreamed and plans you’ve made are going to turn out to be just that… dreams?

That maybe God doesn’t have the things in store for you that you have longed for forever? Maybe you worry that you will indeed be the “spinster with a hundred orphans” (yes, someone really did suggest that to me in middle school…), that you won’t ever see those places, do those things… be that person.

Yeah. Me too.

I take steps to go to nursing school and wonder if preparing myself for a career is going to keep me away from China.

I gasp in awe at the opportunities and relationships that the Lord has given me in China and get excited by them, only to worry that if China is my future… will I get to be a wife and mommy too?

I apply to schools and find out that there are hundred’s of applicants and a very small cohort and that my credit-by-exam credits might affect my cumulative GPA and then what will I do?

I apply to schools and worry that I’ll actually get into a school that starts in the spring and that I’ll only have a few short months in China in the meantime and there’s so much that I want to do.

There’s so much that I want to be.

And I get anxious. I worry. I fret.

Do you know what helps? Psalms. They really do. They put things into perspective because they shift our focus. From worry to glory. From me, to Him.

A friend recommended Psalm 145 the other day. Oooooh friend, read it. Read it out loud! Sing it to your struggling soul. When we are in the midst of confusion and uncertainty, we can turn confidently to the word of God. It never changes. It is always trustworthy. It will never fail.

I will extol You, my God, O King;
And I will bless Your name forever and ever.
Every day I will bless You,
And I will praise Your name forever and ever.
Great is the Lord, and greatly to be praised;
And His greatness is unsearchable.

One generation shall praise Your works to another,
And shall declare Your mighty acts.
I[a] will meditate on the glorious splendor of Your majesty,
And on Your wondrous works.[b]
Men shall speak of the might of Your awesome acts,
And I will declare Your greatness.
They shall utter the memory of Your great goodness,
And shall sing of Your righteousness.

The Lord is gracious and full of compassion,
Slow to anger and great in mercy.
The Lord is good to all,
And His tender mercies are over all His works.

10 All Your works shall praise You, O Lord,
And Your saints shall bless You.
11 They shall speak of the glory of Your kingdom,
And talk of Your power,
12 To make known to the sons of men His mighty acts,
And the glorious majesty of His kingdom.
13 Your kingdom is an everlasting kingdom,
And Your dominion endures throughout all generations.[c]

14 The Lord upholds all who fall,
And raises up all who are bowed down.
15 The eyes of all look expectantly to You,
And You give them their food in due season.
16 You open Your hand
And satisfy the desire of every living thing.

17 The Lord is righteous in all His ways,
Gracious in all His works.
18 The Lord is near to all who call upon Him,
To all who call upon Him in truth.
19 He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him;
He also will hear their cry and save them.
20 The Lord preserves all who love Him,
But all the wicked He will destroy.
21 My mouth shall speak the praise of the Lord,
And all flesh shall bless His holy name
Forever and ever.

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